The little people

Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.— Blaise Pascal

Liz Strauss has a lot of anecdotes, but one of my favorites is: “Little bloggers grow up to become big bloggers.

What that really means is that you really ought to just be nice to everyone.  The Golden Rule.  But somehow people think that rule only applies to certain people and completely ignore those that may need it most.

The little people. You know who they are.  And they are not “little” at all, in fact sometimes they are the most powerful people you will ever meet. They are the receptionists who put your call through a little faster.  The administrative assistant who will somehow squeeze you into a schedule.  The IT help desk staff that may bump you up further in the queue or not even put you in it in the first place.

It’s the restaurant hostess, the waiter or waitress.  The bell captain or valet.  These are the people most people ignore, or worse treat disdainfully and it is a shame. They are no different than anyone else and deserve the same respect.

I often wish that we had the same restaurant model here that they do in Europe where it is a respected profession with training and a salary.  I am not saying they aren’t abused, but rather they are recognized as a profession and there is a certain amount of dignity that comes with that.

Around the time of the whole Steven Slater/Jet Blue incident, Linda Donahue of Parisien Salon wrote a great post on her observations as a frequent flier.  She has been appalled at the way people treat flight attendants, and I have seen it as well, in fact I observed it on my flight home from back east yesterday.

And it reminded that I had this post that’s been sitting in my drafts and it is time it saw the light of day.

Please, be nice to everyone, every where you go, anywhere in the world.  If someone is rude to you, instead of being rude back (that is SO easy to do) be the bigger person, smile, be nice and know that you have the power to change how you communicate and treat others.

About Andi Fisher

I'm a lifestyle blogger focused on travel and food. I love to travel via my stomach eating and seeking out local artisans to feature here. I'm a big supporter of the blogging community and love highlighting travel and food bloggers for you to meet.


  1. You are so right about how to treat people. After all, we’re all “little people” to someone. I do wish we would pay wait staff a living wage. I’ve discovered that some people don’t leave tips in restaurants because they’re unaware of the pittance that employees make and feel they’ve already earned their salary.

    • @Cherie, it is a common mistake, I have heard that before as well. Especially if they are foreign visitors who don’t know that our system is different/

  2. Having worked in the restaurant industry for over 25 years, I witnessed that daily – someone being as rude to me as they possibly could. Instead of getting upset with them I killed them with kindness and sometimes that would irritate them more. My thought is that everyone should be a food server for a month and they would appreciate the good and bad days of their waiters/waitresses. It is a wonderful profession to teach you about life and how to handle all sorts of personality types – an education indeed! xxoo 🙂

  3. Do us little bloggers really get to become big bloggers one day? Thank you for your encouragement in the Francophile blogger world. I think that now that I am recovering a little from the shock of re-entry… I can blog again.

  4. Hi Andi,

    Thanks for this reminder and thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment on *my* little blog. It made my day!

  5. So very true. I literally cringe in the company of low tippers and anyone else rude to anyone in the service industry.

  6. Totally agree with this! I was a hostess at a Mexican restaurant through high school, a receptionist in junior college, and a cocktail waitress in college. In general, I was treated very well (in fact, my bar customers bought me my first computer as a going away present for when I moved aways for law school). My husband has told me in France they say “there are no stupid jobs, only stupid people”.

  7. I’ve been in the service industry or in retail on and off over the years and Americans can be so arrogant and rude to those they consider ‘below them’. It’s astonishing. But what it has done for me is to remind me to be kind. I try to always make eye contact, to be polite and I am a very generous tipper.

    • @Walker, I tip a lot as well, some of those people really have a tough time. And I am super, super nice to everyone in service postions.

  8. Amy Green says:

    I love your post and its message. I think nowadays, more than ever, it is important than ever to remember politeness, kindness and civility. People should just remember the basic rule of treating others the way you would like to be treated. Just take a step back, breathe, and remember that everyone has a bad day.

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