Eat Pray Love details the journey that Elizabeth Gilbert took to discover just exactly who she was. For as long as she could remember, her life had become melded with those of the men she shared her life with. Somewhere along the way she lost track of who she really was and decided to embark on a mission to reclaim her life.
Whereas I don’t think I had quite lost myself to the depths that Elizabeth Gilbert had when my first husband asked for a divorce I was thrown into a tailspin. I had never had a long period of time without a boyfriend when a relationship ended, it was usually me who was doing it. To have been dumped in such a fashion was a huge wake-up call.
I was a miserable person and therefore made the people around me miserable. Suddenly I had to spend a lot of time with myself and it gave me pause to reflect on what my life had become. At first, I can’t say I was thrilled to have the time, but gradually I really relished the alone time as I discovered, or re-discovered who I was, what I liked, and why I was so unhappy.
I began to travel. Alone. I was lucky enough to be working in a position that afforded me a lot of business trips. I started extending them and exploring Europe and Asia. And what I discovered was the passion that many cultures had for food. Eating was not just a utility, an exercise to get you from Point A to Point B, but rather an experience.
I brought the experiences home with me. Gone were the microwave dinners eaten in five minutes over the sink. I started buying cheeses and wines and gourmet food products. I started setting myself a spot on the bar and enjoying either a meal I made or one that I had carefully selected. I stopped eating fast food and starting thinking about my meals and enjoying the tastes and textures and pleasure.
I enjoyed life and I became happier. I decided that if I could change my life with food, I could change other parts of my life as well. I decided to be happier. Consciously making the decisions to be happy opened myself up to the Universe and let good things come to me. And I have not ever looked back.
If I ever found myself in the position of being alone again I would travel to where people embrace life, celebrate it. Through food, through wine, through everything in life and I know that I would be okay. When I read Eat Pray Love I was reminded of that, it was something I had not thought about in many years. I am thankful that Elizabeth Gilbert shared her experience in a way that teaches other women that they can rediscover themselves as well.
What would your version of “Eat” be?