12 Days of Christmas Giveaway – Day 6

On the sixth day of Christmas, Misadventures with Andi gave to me…

An autographed copy of my friend Alisa Bowman’s new book Project: Happily Ever After which is coming out on December 28th!

I write about her all the time, she has a blog that is a terrific resource for free marriage help and advice and now she is sharing her story and more in her own book, Project: Happily Ever After.

I have two autographed copies of the book to give to two people:

To enter tell me what your favorite marriage (or relationship) advice is. Mine is never go to bed angry, but yours can be anything!

You have until midnight PST on Monday, December 13 to leave your comment.

Bonus entries will be allotted for re-tweeting the post (if you need help with how to do this, I wrote instructions last year here).

I will use Random.org to make all winner selections.

Check back at my 12 Days of Christmas Giveaway Center post for new giveaways each day as well as deadlines and winner selections.

Good luck!

NOTE: I will be on a plane traveling to Tokyo for the rest of the day and will not be able to approve those comments that get stuck in the approval queue, but fear not, your comment will be accepted and will likely show after I am able to get internet access upon arrival.

Comments

  1. My favorite is just to touch each other. It doesn’t have to be sexual necessarily, but just the physical intimacy of holding hands while you walk somewhere, cuddling on the couch while you watch TV, hugging each other for a moment while you wait for dinner to cook, all of that makes you feel closer to the other person. Physical intimacy, no matter how small, begets emotional intimacy, which makes for a happier marriage.

  2. I totally agree, never go to bed angry! I also think you should never lose yourself in your partner either.

  3. Kevin Bacon said, keep the fights clean and the sex dirty. Genius. I LOVE Alisa’s tweets; I would LOVE her book, too!

  4. Mine is to balance any criticism with way more positive encouragement.

    And, have lots of sex! LOL

  5. mine is to share the good and the bad
    sarahdottennysonatgmaildotcom

  6. quinieleong says:

    Dont keep your expectations too high! Better yet, dont have any expectation. Life ain’t a fairytale babe!

  7. Don’t accept a playboy no matter how much you like him. He will only break your heart. You deserve much better!

  8. I’m really interested in reading this book! I’ve heard much about it.

    My favorite marriage advice is to always say “I love you”, before you leave the house in the morning.

  9. I’m engaged, so not yet married, but my fave advice from my grandmother is, “make sure that’s the face you want to wake up to everyday!” :)
    Thanks!
    Olivia
    PS. Check out our giveaway, too!
    http://www.lovelyatyourside.com/2010/12/jackdaw-pilate-necklace-giveaway.html

  10. Communicate! No matter how awkward the subject.

  11. Make love often ; )

    Seems like a great book. I would love to win! Thanks.

  12. I work with engaged couples as part of my job- my favorite marriage advice is talk about everything before you get married…and keep talking once you are married. Listen to everything before you get married and keep listening once you are married.

  13. it’s not a contest

  14. Well I’m on my 2nd marriage and I learned a few things from the first one.
    Going to bed at the same time as your partner really is an important thing. Even if one can’t go to sleep right away waiting til the other goes to sleep before getting and doing other things.

    It’s not a catchy saying exactly but it is important.

  15. Make decisions together and always smile to your partner.

  16. I “Like” Day 6 of 12 Days of Christmas wall post. FB id- Mxy Rxy Fernandez

  17. It’s important, I think, to show your partner the same respect that you would a coworker. It’s too easy to fall into the “ditzy wife” or “dopey husband” stereotypical way of treating them and that makes them feel looked down upon.

    Thanks for the chance to win!

    –Liza

    ejm6x (at) yahoo (dot) com

  18. Marry your best friend :)

    Thanks for the giveaway!
    onehotstove AT gmail DOT com

  19. Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, and half-shut afterwards

  20. Marriage advice? Hmmm…..I’ve been married for 7 years, and we talk things out, give each other space, and don’t go to bed angry. Plan romantic moments / dates / dinners / etc. Work on your friendship! Because if you’re not friends to start with, it’s hard to deal with when the initial romance dies…. :)

  21. Liked it on FB!

  22. My favorite marriage advice that I’ve ever gotten is “marry the right person and the rest will work itself out…in the good and the bad.”

  23. Marriage advice would be always make time for each other. Hard to do with work and kids and all that goes with it but date nights are important!

  24. Be careful what you say to each other. Once the words are out you can never take them back.

  25. retweeted!
    @searching4

  26. Hmmm… I’ve never been married, but I know about respecting each other’s differences. Respect is important in any relationship. Thanks for the giveaway!

  27. Mine is to continue courting each other and keep the love alive.

  28. It doesn’t matter HOW he folds the towels. He is FOLDING the towels!!!!

    this applies to all things.

    although my great grandmother used to say: I’d rather have 2 more dogs than another husband. Because at least when I get tired of the dogs i can just let them go.

  29. I did not read the other comments, so my apologies ahead of time if this has already been said.
    Be Patient….this was advice given to me a few months ago. I am still being patient, hoping that what I am waiting for will come to pass. But the fact that I have been patient so far has allowed my husband and I an opportunity to work on our marriage and myself to discover new friends and identify characteristics in myself to work on.

    Michelle
    (btw, I *really* *really* *really* would love a copy of this book. If I don’t win, where will it be sold at????)

  30. Liked both your fb page and day 6 of of the giveaway. Also retweeted on my twitter page…but don’t know how to post the link.

  31. Use “I” statements, remember to touch, share….

  32. Do not enter marriage with the dream of ‘happily ever after’… that is just not reality. Pick the right partner to begin with, don’t settle, and you can weather the good and the bad together.

  33. Never take your partner for granted.

  34. Well..

    Mine is to make a significant contribution to the society so that I’ll be remembered even after my death. :)

    That is my goal in life. :)

  35. Kylee Duff says:

    Never say hurtful things and/or don’t let selfishness into your marriage.

  36. I always remember this advice: Always be patient and accept whatever comes in marriage whether its good or bad

    syazariya(at)hotmail(dot)com

  37. I retweet the post

    http://twitter.com/#!/izzatuliman/status/12336469171507201

    syazariya(at)hotmail(dot)com

  38. I like the wall post

    FB ID: Yuni Nuraini binti Roslan

    syazariya(at)hotmail(dot)com

  39. Stay the same person you were when you were dating.

  40. I “like” today’s giveaway. id: Sara Terkaly

  41. Remember how fragile life is, you wouldn’t want to end the day on a bad note. (a little twist on not going to bed angry!)

    I really think this book could be useful for me…. REALLY.

  42. I will say my husband grand-mother’s advice: never tell your husband: if you are not happy, you can just leave. Because one day, he may just do that.

  43. Angela L. says:

    My favorite marriage advice is that I am an imperfect human who married at imperfect human, so don’t expect perfection!! And also that you must find your fulfillment in God and your marriage is just an extra blessing!!

    Angela L.
    lasitera at yahoo dot com

  44. Angela L. says:

    I “liked” this post on your Facebook page.

    Angela L.
    lasitera at yahoo dot com

  45. Angela L. says:

    I tweeted.

    http://twitter.com/#!/lasiteral/status/12446183234478081

    Angela L.
    lasitera at yahoo dot com
    @lasiteral

  46. Love and appreciate the person for who they are in the moment, not who they could be (though for sure encourage their potential).

  47. my best advice is to have separate interests aka hobbies- you need time to yourself/with girlfriends, and he needs time away too- helps keep frustrations at bay!

  48. http://www.facebook.com/misadventureswithandi

    liked you, then liked this giveaway!

  49. Marilyn Briseno says:

    To communicate openly and honestly.

  50. Always give the other person the benefit of the doubt.

  51. Hi, I already fan of you in FB name doki doki co and like this giveaway :)

    Much Thankies for the chance dear
    Good luck for me and everyone :)

    liz_crowny(at)yahoo(dot)com

  52. My best advice in relationship is laugh, full of laugh will make the relationship happy and warm ! :)

    Much Thankies for the chance dear
    Good luck for me and everyone :)

    liz_crowny(at)yahoo(dot)com

  53. I RT name dokidokico

    Much Thankies for the chance dear
    Good luck for me and everyone :)

    liz_crowny(at)yahoo(dot)com

  54. Share all good and bad with your partner, never put the blame on (just) the other for what goes wrong in your life, have fun at all times – together, keep the fire lit in bed and remember to say “I love you” more often.

  55. The one that stands out for me – compromise!

  56. Respect each other.

  57. Thank you this great giveaway, count me in!

  58. My fav relationship advice is to never go to bed angry
    twils2001@yahoo.com

  59. retweeted
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  60. liked fb wall post
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  61. Marta Vitynska says:

    The purpose of relationship
    is not to have another who might complete you,
    but to have another with whom
    you might share your completeness.

    ~ Neale Donald Walsch ~

  62. Marta Vitynska says:

    Liked on FB.

  63. Find someone who will make sure you wake up to a hot pot of coffee every morning – heavenly!

  64. Love the person for who they are and accept how they are. suelee1998 @ gmail.com

  65. Mine is … always be able to let the dumb things go!! Cause in the end no one is ever really right! xo

    kimberly.long at gmail dot com